Challenge – Be kinder to this 1 person!

We demand a lot of them…

We can be very critical of them…

We talk negatively about their performance…

They rarely meet our expectations…

But I’m asking you to give this person a break!

I’m talking about you!

We are very hard on ourselves….

I know I am.

And we deserve a break.

Have you ever stepped back to observe your own negative self talk that goes on in your head?

Usually it’s this constant chatter that we are oblivious too because it happens so frequently.

But the first step is to just observe and note when we are being critical of ourselves.

Most often, the feedback to ourselves is so negative, we would never say it to another human…

So why are we deserving of this limiting feedback?

Once we are able to note it’s occurrence…

The objective is to change the dialogue into something more productive and useful.

For example:

I am guilty at work after a presentation of sitting in my office replaying the presentation in my head thinking…

You moron, those slides were hideous…

That joke was a huge mistake…

I talked way to fast…

I bored everyone!

Could those comments be true?

Possibly.

But to the extent I felt?

Probably not.

And that’s not feedback I would give an employee or a peer.

So how could I steer that inner dialogue into something more positive and useful?

I start by thinking what I would say to a friend (after all, we should like ourselves)…

I start with a compliment…

Then simply note what could be improved…

And provide a helpful idea for next time to provide a tangible takeaway.

You can do this for more than work presentations…

Think fitness, diet, relationships, hobbies…

It doesn’t matter.

But the first step is simply noting this critical inner dialogue…

Then give yourself a break!

You deserve it.

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